What is the woman's power?⁠⁠

Чем сильна женщина?

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If a woman is loved, so she is strong. Our love. But during the holidays and in everyday life we ??sometimes forget about those bad people who need help. But, significantly, sometimes even those experiencing difficulties women fit the definition of "stop a galloping horse." They just now hard. They believe that these are temporary difficulties, despite the fact that we do not have nothing more permanent than temporary. Our short story about one of these strong women. In our view, the story of her not quite normal, and in some ways and instructive.

There are people who are broken from the first adversity. The share of Rita Melnikova (passport Rumiya Zakharovna Melnikov) they had a lot, even a lot to endure it all. She stood with her head held high life goes on. In the backgrounds of - a disabled child who refuses to children and families drunkard husband, deprivation of flats due to someone's greed. This begs the happy ending, they say, everything is now behind us, and she won safely be called a hero. Unfortunately, not all: deciding a number of details, with the major challenges this beautiful and courageous woman could not handle. Maybe because he is struggling with them alone, maybe because of something else, and the load of its problems and still there. But the heroine can be called with good reason: Rita Melnikova not lost heart, did not turn away from people and just loves life. However, let us all in order ...

Married for love: how could it be otherwise? Tall, handsome, blue-eyed her betrothed has always evoked the envious glances of friends and acquaintances. But lucky Rita. Lucky enough, thought the young wife. At first it was like people - beloved husband, family, work, friends, the birth of a daughter. The daughter, however, was born sickly, with a birth injury that has not been cured, and she was left disabled for life. To work after giving birth did not go, had to devote himself to the sick child.

Disability pension daughter was then a small, lived on earnings husband helped parents. About retire told not to be witty for: then the days will come when it will become the main source of life, or rather survival. However, let's not get ahead of ourselves.

The husband had not yet drunk, anyway, is not to too much - like everyone else. Work, bring money. Daughter grows up, but start a second child afraid, and suddenly too will be born disabled. But the doctor reassured, they say, everything will be fine. A second daughter was born healthy in the joy of their parents. Rita now can not even imagine what would have done without the Younger, who for 13 years, and it has become not only an assistant, but also a friend of the mother.

Problems in life not everything goes well, I think Rita. The apartment was close (but OWN!), Child sick (but loved!), My husband sometimes drinks (but not drunken, and, thus, loves children!). There are those who see the positive in everything - that's it such. After the birth of her second child went to work. First there was the seller, then a sales manager, and then completely started his business - wholesale trade products. Things were going up the hill: bought a car, start saving money. And even the occasional case booze spouse is not perceived as a tragedy: Well, relaxed man, seized the life, work got. Money is home wore felt it, and over the others look - no money, no husband, on the contrary, being dragged out of the house.

Began to think about the improvement of living conditions. In the mid-2000s, everybody was talking about the mortgage. Decided to sell inherited from parents bedroom apartment and make money for the bedroom. Calculated that their earnings with her husband more than enough to cover the monthly payments on the mortgage. So at first it was. But there was a crisis. Or rather, not the one in the country, it has not affected them so much, and in the family: her husband was drinking and he was expelled from work. Not the first time she went, pestered, but someone tell me, is needed drinking and irresponsible employee? So decided, and industry leaders in the trust where everyone wanted to get: stable high earnings, regular bonuses, just works. The husband did not want to work, he began to drink, and nothing could stop him: no tears beautiful wife or a sick child or unraveling of the family hearth. "He was weak in spirit. Fell and could not get up, broke "- with sadness in his eyes says Rita.

The trouble does not come alone: ??the people of this feature in ancient times yet noticed. This thunder somehow suddenly, casually: they were told that now the new owner of their apartment. It turns out that while she understands her husband and tried to restore it at work, somehow did not notice that I missed one or two payments. This had happened before, she followed with a slight delay to deposit money and all complete successfully. And then the bankers decided not to wait and took unfounded immediate punitive measures: debt resold to another entity, and located in another city. Then, when resorted to the help of lawyers, it was found that these measures were also illegal. Yes, then it is nothing to prove and no one could.

However, its arguments in court outweighed. As her lawyers said, all went to the recognition of the illegal deprivation of the apartment and leaving families with a disabled child without a roof over his head. During the trial, a spokeswoman Rita came the other side and asked to move in coordination meeting allegedly due to illness of his son. Rita agreed. Only then I realized: they dissembled and took time out to accumulate power and attack with new vigor. Then life threw another test: in-law died. While engaged in necessary in such cases sad cares, the other party warning in advance and held meetings in her absence supposedly valid reason. She went to the woman recalled the concessions during the illness of her son, but she was adamant. What is it - the cruelty, greed, or cruelty, multiplied by greed. Or simple human cruelty? ..

Sometimes Rita tries to bring logic for your situation. Listen: "We sold the apartment. Invested in the new house and then another year and a half to pay contributions. When we chose an apartment, our family was on the street with nothing. Well this is how it is: come in shorts and shirt, hoping to get the pants and jacket, and left completely naked? The same can not be that we have lost, and his apartment, and the one that wanted to buy. " And explains: if in one place decreases else - arrives. I wonder how live those who profit from misery and distress of this small but close-knit family?

She still can not calm down and asks the same questions: why the bank in such a hurry? Why scam, and it was a real illegal operation weaning property of their chosen family? No way to know that the husband drinks, one woman drags on itself WHO family. And shamelessly taken advantage of. But where did these people's conscience? One .. greed.

We write everywhere: yes, it is. Where is the husband? He seems never came out of the binge, and she still is not sure whether it is faithful to realize what had happened to his family.

Now they are divorced: she was hard to drag and children and spouse. Even divorced and trying to arrange their own destiny, she does not forget her husband. Regularly carries him children, and even pay some of his expenses, takes care of him.

After talking with her realize that she - a happy life, remained somewhere in the recesses of the soul good memories, and, without realizing it herself, she wants to get her back. But without vodka. More precisely, before a period as it firmly established in their lives. And he continues in his heart to love her husband. It happens. We have. In Russian. Sacrifice - one of the qualities of our women. And there is no rational explanation for this, in any case, this example it does not.

... If you meet on the street this beautiful and slender woman with soft green eyes, never thought she carries on his shoulders a load of problems. We are after all, half of them are not able to describe how she feeds the children and contains almost one pension daughter, how to get money to pay for an apartment in the capital, etc. etc. By the way, people at once can not believe that she was alone for many years pulling two children, one of whom - invalid. There is a stereotype that the mother of many children, or in need of social protection of people should something different from other people. Some imagine such utter untidy badly dressed woman with a missing eye. And when it comes to the reception with their problems, the owners of large and small rooms are often surprised, saying that you so blooming, why care?

She understands and smiles sadly their guesses.

For rich journalistic biography had to meet different people. Among them were offended by the authorities. Some are angry with everyone and everything, wrote to various authorities, indulges in all serious, trying to regain their rights, and then became professional dissenters, forgetting it all started. Everyone protects their rights as it may, you can not blame anyone. Our heroine is not embittered, lives a full life, a lively interest in events in the country and the world, as every mother is going through, that there was no war. Rejoicing in the younger daughter, who is seriously engaged in singing and music. And believes that the state will not leave her - will help deal with the injustice that happened to their family. And in no way binds the actions of unscrupulous officials and government policy. Because officials come and go (sometimes - on the bench), and Russia remains. In order to avoid giving offense to their citizens. In order to get along with them - the citizens to achieve greatness. But then why all this? ..

Put an end and found myself thinking: but is it really necessary to create our lovely women a situation where they have to demonstrate their power and stop the horses at full gallop, to enter the burning hut and find a way out other emergency situations? Maybe we still pay attention to safety and give our ladies the opportunity to do more themselves (really, they are very beautiful and worthy of it) and children, look, dare to demographic and other problems beset us. But it is, thinking out loud ...

Egor Ershov.

Publicist.

Moscow.

PS. This family really needs help. Unfortunately, the state can not or do not want to do it, otherwise it will be necessary to plead guilty in the illegal eviction from the apartment families with small children, one of whom - a child with disabilities. Head of the family are invited to attend a show at one of the federal channels, but she does not want to turn their misfortune into entertainment for bored audience. Ms. Melnikova leaning towards a legal solution of the problem: go to the European Court of Human Rights with a claim against the Russian Federation and try to defend their rights and the rights of their children to a decent life. This is logical, since neither the courts nor the government officials in Russia did not heed her legal arguments, and took advantage of a wild right when the right one who is stronger. In the meantime essence of the case, the family would appreciate any help from good people, both material and moral. And another thing: Rumie Rita Melnikova and her children need qualified legal assistance to issue a statement of claim to the Strasbourg Court, as well as to defend their rights in disputes with the authorities. In particular, her child with disabilities, States must provide a separate living space, but because, in general, non-essential reasons for this moment postponed.

The editors have all necessary documents on this complex case and is ready to provide them interested organizations upon request. Some of the names and details are omitted from the unwillingness to injure maturing daughter heroine.

Here is the account number, which you can send help:

Transfer details on the card account

6390 0238 9060 47 9425 «Maestro» (Maestro), in Sberbank of Russia

Recipient: Rumia Zakharovna MELNIKOVA.

Account number: 40817810438186506979

Beneficiary Bank:

Moscow Bank of Sberbank RUSSIA Moscow

BIC: 044525225

Correspondent account:

30101810400000000225

Transmission: 775001001

VAT number: 7707083893

OKPO: 57972160

BIN: 1027700132195

Tel. Rumia (Rita) Melnikova: +7 (925) 837 64 90

E-mail: 01071974.74@mail.ru